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Easy Visualization Exercises You Can Do In Just Minutes

13 Jun.
Posted by art_stanley in Advice | No Comments

Visualization is big word that describes a simple, yet powerful and effective technique for creating whatever you want. Before we get into specific visualization exercises you can do to get the most out of your sessions, let’s briefly explain the process.

When visualizing, the first thing you need to do is relax. Once you’ve reached a deep level of relaxation, you enable yourself to connect with the Universal Mind or Spirit. Don’t let that spook you — it’s an amazing process and once you experience this amazing feeling, you’ll want to revisit it again and again.

Once you’re in a deep state of relaxation (whether you’ve felt a connection or not) it’s a matter of monitoring your thoughts. The goal is to free your mind of the mental chatter of multiple thoughts, issues of the day and concerns. Once you’ve reached this blissful state, you simply imagine your goal or dream result. Get a picture in your mind’s eye of you in possession of the desired object or conditions. That’s what visualization is all about.

There are a few keys to making the process of visualization work for you. First and foremost, you’ve got to feel what it’s like to have the result you want. Feelings are a key component. Get a deep sense of what it will be like when your goal is manifested. Assume ownership of that goal. Make it yours. As Bob Proctor says, “name it and claim it.” What you’re doing at this point is creating the mold in spirit of what you will soon realize in the physical world. Repeat the process over and over again until what you want is yours.

When it comes to specific visualization exercises, step number one is to find a quiet, peaceful place where you can be alone for about 15 minutes or so. Natural settings are great, weather permitting, of course. A forest path, quiet stretch of beach, park bench, or even the bank of a stream have all proven to be excellent natural settings to engage in creative visualization.

Now here a few easy visualization exercises to quickly reach a state of relaxation. Simply repeat the word “relax” again and again, slowly, purposefully, feeling more relaxed with each occurrence. Deep breathing is another visualization exercise that will help you relax deeper and deeper. Another technique is to count down from one to ten. As you do so, imagine that you’re descending a staircase and each step down takes you to a deeper level of relaxation. Try it. It works like magic.

Once you’ve reached a peaceful, relaxed state of mind, you’ll still find a myriad of random thoughts entering your consciousness. These visualization exercises will help. Strive to offer no thoughts. As you notice your mind thinking about something, simply release the thought. Imagine yourself staring into space. Or imagine a giant white screen in front of you with nothing on it but blank space. Whenever you catch your mind thinking about something, simply return to the blank screen. When you offer no thoughts, you offer no resistance, so you vibration rises automatically.

Now take that blank screen and play a movie featuring you in possession of the goal you seek. Make it vibrant, exciting and alive, with you playing the starring role. This is another visualization exercise that works very well. Another similar approach is to imagine that you’re being honoured for your lifetime achievements. As part of the ceremony, there’s a PowerPoint presentation featuring numerous stills of you doing, having, and being all that you’ve imagined. Put yourself in that place and see yourself being congratulated by many people.

There’s no doubt that visualization is a powerful, creative tool. If you only take these easy visualization exercises and put them to work on a consistent basis, there is virtually nothing in the world that is beyond your reach. The only question is, will you?

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3 Powerful Examples of Affirmations That Can Change Your Life Today

13 Jun.
Posted by art_stanley in Advice | No Comments

Affirmations are nothing more than powerful, inspiring statements made by you about yourself. They are designed to alter your self-concept.

The purpose of using affirmations regularly is to allow you to override the existing programming in your mind that is the result of years of conditioning from parents, teachers, friends, and family. Though often well-meaning in intention, the programming most of us received in our early years is actually holding us back from living the life we really want.

If you can’t honestly say that you are in fact living your dreams, chances are its limited thinking that’s preventing you from being all you can be, doing all you can do, and having all you can imagine. Powerful affirmations can help and to get you started on the right track, I’m about to reveal 3 examples of affirmations you can use or model to create your own.

Affirmations are powerful tools of change. You simply repeat the statement to yourself as though it were absolutely true. Follow the examples below and you will have learned another valuable tool for self improvement.

What affirmations do is they help you to change your existing beliefs. They are designed to upgrade your beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of accomplishing. If you have yet to accomplish all you want in life (and who has, really) than affirmations are something that could seriously benefit you.

Delivered in a positive, confident manner, affirmations eventually take over the existing belief to change your internal programming, making you stronger and more able than you were before. What makes them so effective is they help to create a vision of you having, being, or doing exactly what you want. It’s a preview of coming attractions, with you stepping into the new role you’ve chosen.

Here are the 3 examples of affirmations as promised:

1. Every day in every way, I’m getting better and better. (Emile Coue)

2. My past is nothing more than the trail I’ve left behind. What drives my life today is the energy that I generate in each of my present moments. (Wayne Dyer)

3. I know that I can only think and focus on one thought at a time, so I deal with each issue of my life, one at a time, before moving on to the next. (Art Stanley)

Choose statements that resonate with you and your primary goal. Stand tall. Feel confident and radiant. And speak your chosen affirmations with power and conviction. Use the above examples of affirmations to guide you and then create your own. Repeat several times daily and combine affirmations with visualization and you’ve got a one-two punch that will help you create the life of your dreams.

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Positive Thinking Is A Magnet For Success

13 Jun.
Posted by kevin03 in Advice | No Comments

Most people have heard of Norman Vincent Peale’s famous book “The Power of Positive Thinking.” The influence of this book and others of a similar ilk has been significant and thousands of people have applied the principles of positive thinking to achieve personal success.

How important is positive thinking to the achievement of success?

More than anything, it seems that our attitude to life has a greater influence on success than education, experience and other factors. So if you want your dreams to materialize, start by monitoring your attitude.

You need to learn how to think positively despite the circumstances. If you can do this, you will have taken a significant step towards achieving your dreams. Fortunately, it is not overly difficult to improve your thinking habits. You simply have to identify negative thoughts you need to change and replace them with positive thoughts.

Positive thinking allows us to reinterpret our experiences and circumstances more optimistically than we might otherwise do. In turn, this gives us greater personal strength to weather the storms we face and turn difficult situations around. It also helps us to move from where we are to where we want to be. By simply paying attention to the stream of thoughts that run through our minds we can quickly identify those that are negative.

It is therefore important to begin to pay attention to your thoughts. How often do you feel unhappy, negative, judgemental or discouraged? Before you can really achieve the success you want it is essential to begin to think more positively.

Positive thinkers do not allow a single negative event to affect their whole lives. They are able to put things in perspective and still maintain a healthy emotional balance. It is amazing how many people hold onto anger and regrets about relatively unimportant things.

To truly take advantage of the power of positive thinking, you need to let go of resentments and unforgiveness. There is a time for these feelings. If you have been betrayed and bruised it is only human to experience emotional pain. However, if you truly want a happy life you cannot hold onto these feelings for very long.

You don’t have to be unrealistic to be a positive thinker. It isn’t about avoiding the truth or hiding from reality; it is simply taking charge of your life beginning with your thoughts. We create what we focus on in life. We may think we are focusing on good things but when we pay attention to our thoughts we can be shocked to discover how negative they are. If our thoughts are negative, we will attract negative things into our lives. It’s that simple.

By simply paying attention to the good things in your life and being grateful for them, you can become a positive thinker. When your thoughts are overwhelmingly positive you will begin to attract more positive experiences into your life. That is the simple yet amazing power of positive thinking.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of Be Successful News, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business. http://besuccessfulnews.com/

Do You Suffer Fear Of Success?

13 Jun.
Posted by robertoab in Advice | No Comments

There are many ideas that are not easy to accept, and one of the worst is the idea that we can not have the success that we look for, because we are afraid of success.

It is frequent to see how people that are working on their life’s argument, as a way of approaching more quickly to the goals that they have, when they begin to practice what they have learned, and begin to come closer to their goals, all of a sudden they stop practicing the techniques. Why do they do that?

Simply because they are afraid that their new behaviors might take them toward some kind of unknown danger.

After having lived a life filled with frustrations, they find difficult to accept the idea that they will leave the group of the failures; and happens many times because since they were small they got used to be criticized and the blame feelings.

The parents influence on this is so big that if we wanted to novelize an example, we could say that if someone gives a blue shirt and a green shirt to a seven year-old future winner, when he puts on the blue shirt they will tell him “How happy I am that you like the blue shirt”, but to a future failure they will say “you put on the blue shirt, don’t you like the green one?”.

With this example I want to highlight that it is very frequent to see that in some families, the parents have the tendency to do not notice what the child do, but do notice what we don’t do, or do bad.

I would say that for many, success is as strange as a martian; and then they think things like: “It’s better something bad and well known that something good to be known” or “Better a bird in hand than a hundred flying” or “The changes are dangerous” or “The changes are bad”

All our culture seems to tell us that it is better to escape from the success that to cohabit with a stranger.

The Life’s Argument

Every time that we abandon an old behavior, although it could have been extremely pernicious for us, we feel a strange sensation of loss, of bereavement; because we are so used to love us that we even love those behaviors that damage us.

When the patterns of the failure break, we feel anxiety, something like an emptiness sensation. Our conscious mind is congratulated to have overcome a problem, and at the same time our subconscious mind cries the loss of a well-known one.

This is in fact the point where practicing mind control reaches its maximum value like a catapult toward a better life, because in that moment we will really need, the support of all that helps us to change, and to move from fear to success.

Our Inner Guardian

Our subconscious mind recognizes only one master, and it’s the guardian of our Life’s Argument. That guardian’s mission is to watch over our existence, and to control that nothing changes, to verify that each one of our behaviors responds to some pattern fixed in our past.

That way our waste of energy will be minimum, and everything will continue perfectly predictable and sure, perhaps it won’t please us a lot, perhaps it won’t please us at all, but we will feel sure!

It is our guardian who produces the emptiness sensation, the sadness, the anxiety and fundamentally the fear, fear to change, fear of success.

Our guardian doesn’t give up easily, he doesn’t stop making us feel fear of success, because HE feels fear of success, and only the familiarity with success can calm him, only if we get used to the idea of being praised, we can begin to accept that that ET is a good partner, or even that it is a better partner than those that we have had up to now.

But meanwhile, our inner guardian not only will provoke us fear, but even perspirations, nausea, pains and varied symptoms of uneasiness. These are the consequences of our fear of success, but they are also the signs that we are beginning to change.

Suppose that you have already taken a step toward the success.. What Will it happen then? It will happen that our guardian simply gets calmer because he is receiving the caress of the commendation. But he doesn’t leave, and neither it changes ideas, but rather stays in trap attitude, to see what it is that happens.

He is willing to accept our new success momentarily, but it is not willing to accept the presence of a bigger success.

Every time that we attempt an important new step to the front, our fear of success will reappear. But then we will have a new advantage, and that will be that not only we will have tasted the victory, but we will have made ourselves to the idea, that the success is also waiting for us.

The Terror To Failure

Another great reason for the fear of success, is our terror to failure. We are generally so afraid to fail that we rather give up our dreams, than to suffer another defeat.

But the defeat is not an enemy but a teacher, and we should learn to listen and incorporate its message; we should stop to join forces to attempt it again.

Once I read that when a weights lifter tries to break a mark and it doesn’t achieve it, he doesn’t continue trying and frustrating himself, but rather lowers the weight, practices some time with that lower weight, and when he feels sure again, he tries to conquer its own mark again.

The reality is that there isn’t something like warranted happiness, and the great difference between the winner and the failure, is that the winner faces problems and fears the same as the failure, but the winner overcomes, he learns and it continues ahead.

With this I don’t mean that it is impossible to stop making errors. There are many people that haven’t made a single error for years. And to be part of this group that is not afraid of success because it never makes errors, you need only one thing: to die. : -)

Author of “THE SECRET of The Magic Lamp” (written in 1987) and it’s 42 Self Help CD with Subliminal Messages, that can be found at http://www.drbonomi.com
Author of The Easy Home Business Web Site at http://www.easy-home-business.com

Communication Skills for Young Adults

12 Jun.
Posted by summitmarketing in Advice | No Comments

It is quite ironic that some of life’s biggest decisions are made in our late teens and early twenties. Decisions about further education, entering the workforce, building a career and getting ahead are very prevalent during this time of life. But unfortunately with very few life skills and experience behind a young person this can make for a very stressful and confusing time.

Not only is the decision making process itself all consuming and an incredible pressure for young adults but the process of discussing their options with parents, teachers and university advisors, then interviews with educational facilities and later on, potential employers, can make them feel completely out of their depth.

While living life might be the only way to gain true experience there is much to be said for a person who is able to enter into these challenging scenarios confidently and with the ability to discuss matters of such importance thoroughly and with a clear understanding. Knowing what one wants to achieve, whether education or career related, and being able to communicate that desire effectively and efficiently can ease the pressure experienced during this time and will also provide an individual with an excellent foundation in good communication skills that will serve them well in the years ahead.

Being able to speak confidently with peers, colleagues and superiors is a very valuable skill and will be called upon time and time again in a person’s life. A person who is able to communicate their ideas and thoughts articulately is much more likely to avoid the common stress and challenges of higher education, the interview process, employment reviews and leadership opportunities for example. However, it is important to note that the hallmark of a confident speaker is not one who is overly witty, clever or super polished. The value of a confident speaker is in being someone who is able to easily join a conversation, contributing thoughts and ideas clearly and efficiently and enjoying verbal interaction with people from all walks of life. By mastering a skill such as this an individual would always be a step ahead of the crowd.

So how can a young adult develop these skills without the benefit of life experience and the associated natural learning curve? Many people in similar situations have found great success with a specially designed self hypnosis training program aimed at building confidence when speaking in public. The goal of the program is to help the individual understand where their lack of confidence comes from and to help them break down their old responses to these situations and build up a new set of responses. They will also gain access to new tools and resources that will provide the individual with new found confidence when communicating with others.

Just imagine 30 days from now being able to walk into any situation and instantly feeling poised and confident when contributing your thoughts and ideas, being able to communicate your desires and goals in an inspiring manner without the common feelings of insecurity and intimidation. Someone with this level of confidence would have the edge over their fellow peers without a doubt and would not have to suffer the self conscious awkwardness typical of this period in ones life.

So if you or a young adult you know could benefit from becoming a more confident, self assured communicator, self-hypnosis might be the answer you’ve been looking for and a valuable skill gained for life.

Lisa Dyke has put together The Mind Training Series which is a high quality range of self hypnosis audio programmes, for more information on becoming a confident public speaker please visit http://www.confident-communication.com

Five Simple Ways to Build an Attitude of Gratitude

12 Jun.
Posted by momscape in Advice | No Comments

Focusing on gratitude keeps us centered and helps ward off negativity.

Here are five little things we can do each day to nourish our sense of gratitude:

1. Choose your friends wisely.
If you want to be more grateful, spend time with grateful people. Spend time with positive people to be more positive; joyful people to be more joyful.

If you strive to be spiritually strong, supportive, empowering, intelligent, energetic, and positive, seek those characteristics in others.

Help your friends develop more positive traits by living those positive traits yourself. Know what kind of friends will help you nurture your soul, and set out to find some.

2. Help your friends cultivate gratitude.
I have seen this happen to myself and to my friends: We will be perfectly content about a situation until someone tells us we are being mistreated or have a right to be upset about something. Suddenly, we are upset.

Try not to let your friends wield such power, and work to avoid wielding such power yourself. Day by day, hour by hour, make a goal to avoid complaining about your life. Make a pact with your friends to cut the complaints from your conversations.

3. Give the gift of gratitude to your children.
Help your children to be satisfied and grateful for simple, everyday things by giving thanks aloud. Keep a Gratitude Journal in which, each day, you record 5 or 10 things for which you are grateful, and ask your children for contributions. Give your children a journal of their own or keep a family Gratitude Journal.

4. Say “Thank You.”
Whom in your life do you appreciate? Let them know, whether it is your mom, your kids, your friends, your husband, your childs daycare provider or the helpful woman behind the cosmetics counter.

Write thank you notes regularly, not just after a gift exchange, and be mindful of all the ways you show your appreciation by the things you do in return.

Tell your kids how thankful you are for them. Jot a note to each of your children in which you tell them how much you love them, why you are thankful for them, and all the
ways they have enriched your life. This can be something you give them now or after they have grown.

5. Be mindful of the little things.
Today, strive to be aware of all the aspects of your personal, professional, and family life for which you are thankful.

Take a few minutes today to appreciate nature. Go for a walk and notice only those things that are beautiful. Whether you focus on the stars above, a distant mountain range, or the cottonwood tree in your backyard, try to notice the details. Give thanks for the beauty that surrounds you.

Regardless of whether you record these items, spend some time each day to focus on the little things in your life that make each day special. Perhaps it is your childs toothless grin. A warm home. Delicious food enjoyed with family.

Together, let us work on focusing on what we have, not on what we do not have, and all the ways we can help one another have more gratitude for the gift of life.

Susie Cortright is the founder of several popular websites, including http://www.susies-coupons.com , http://www.bestselfhelp.com and http://www.momscape.com where you can register to win gift cards from top online merchants.

How To Use Body Language To End Loneliness

11 Jun.
Posted by WizardOfWisdom in Advice | No Comments

There is a world of difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Loneliness is a painful, empty feeling. It is based on a belief - or set of beliefs - that you are unloved and unwanted. It is not a pleasant place to be at all, and indeed may even be a component or forerunner of depression.

Where it comes from may be interesting, but it won’t take it away, and to keep this article brief, let’s concentrate our efforts there, shall we?

Essentially, loneliness has three components, and the good news is they’re all under your control.

The first of these I’ve mentioned already, and it’s your beliefs. To feel lonely, you’ll have to believe that no one understands you, wants you, could love or even like you! You may have your personal variations, but underneath your rationalisations, you’ll find I’m in the right ball park.

The second element will be your thoughts - your inner dialogue if you will. You might be the kind of person who asks yourself negatively charged questions, such as, “Why doesn’t anyone ever seem to want me?” Although it may feel reasonable to ask yourself questions like that feeling as wretched as
you do, actually your subconscious takes everything literally and so it’ll give you an honest, almost childlike, answer. You’ll get something like this: “Well, you’re not exactly God’s gift are you? And you know how hopeless you are with money/kids/nerves/fill-in-the-blank, it’s no wonder you’re on your own!”

You get the picture. Of course, it doesn’t come out as neatly as that in your head, but that again will be in the right area.

The third, and perhaps most powerful element, will be your body language. As a lonely, (”unwanted”), person, you’ll avoid eye contact, slump your shoulders a little and maybe hang your head, (as if you’re ashamed of yourself). If you’re a woman you might even hunch a little as if hiding your bust. (You can’t possibly afford the risk of being sexually attractive! Imagine the pain of rejection!)

Your physiology is the most powerful element because it’s the one that will produce the fastest change. I can argue with you till I’m blue in the face that you’re truly a lovely person, but inside you’ll leave feeling much the same as when we started. Your thought processes will still be similar, and you’ll find questions forming in your mind such as, “Why is this guy saying all these nice things to me? If he really knew me …”

But your body language, now that’s different.

Square your shoulders, sit or stand just a little straighter. Breathe ten percent deeper than you were now, and let yourself have this thought: “Actually, I’ve got a lot to be proud of myself about.”

How many times a day can you do that little process?

It’s only a beginning, but you know what little acorns turn into, don’t you?

Trevor Emdon is an expert on relationship trust and other self help issues. Check out http://www.trust-in-relationships.com for details of his latest book and free reports.