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In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means a self change – the kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you would not even remember. Do not let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of dog eat dog theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You cannnot be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It is okay to cry and say ouch! when we experience pain. But do not let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you are looking at. Do not wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it does not mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you will never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Dart Pin #7 : Negative Behavior
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God would not come down from heaven and tell you, “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”

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As you further develop your skill, one of the best ways to build momentum is to come up with a process to test small changes in your execution. This gives you a way of constantly improving as well as an easy to follow method of generating feedback for yourself.

Smaller steps are always easier to keep track of. Most of us can figure out how to make $1000.00, but most of us can’t figure out how to make $1 million. If you can make $1000.00, and you can repeat that 1000 times, then you have made $1 million. The more you can find small elements of a complex skill or skill-set to improve, the faster your improvement will be.

For example, if you were a student of karate, rather than trying to get better at everything at once, narrow it down to a single technique, or even a single aspect of a technique. If you want to work on your sidekick, just begin to pay more attention every time you practice it. Are you performing the sidekick exactly as you would like to? Do you have a clear vision of what you want to be able to do with it? You can even narrow this down to a single aspect of the sidekick. Are you striking with the heel? Are hitting your intended target? Can you throw the kick without the opponent seeing it coming?

As another example, if you are a public speaker, you will want to change as small a detail as possible in order to measure results from the audience. You might add one anecdote into your presentation to gauge the immediate reaction as well as the overall impact on the whole presentation. You might also choose to develop more rapport with audience faster, change the order of the presentation, or change the style of your clothing. Notice that each of these is much easier to work with than creating an entirely new presentation.

Once you begin to recognize all the small details of your skill-set that you can begin to improve, it is also useful to have a time frame for changing them out. A week is a good starting point, but depending on the skill you are developing, you may opt for a slightly shorter or slightly longer period of time.

If you do decide to go with a week, then pick a day to change aspects of the skill. It can be any day of the week, but Sunday often works best. Whatever day you choose, use it to make a final review of all the positive results of the change in your skill. You can also note any challenges in this area that remain, and you can even choose to dedicate another week to it if you feel you haven’t improved enough.

For the example of public speaking, you might note that your anecdote really lightened up the dry material in the middle of the presentation and brought the audience back into focus. You might also decide that for the next week you are going to work on pauses and timing to give your major points more impact.

Once you develop a simple feedback mechanism for testing small changes, you will not only build momentum and vastly magnify your ability to improve in any skill, you will also develop an eye for subtle differences. The appreciation and application of subtlety is a true mark of mastery!

Benjamin Langley has been studying and training in meditation, yoga, and other sciences of the mind for over 10 years. He regularly writes and shares powerful insights on his own blog. Come take a look: http://peacefulprosperity.com/blog

One of the most counterproductive things that I see people do the most is plan, plan, plan and dream, dream, dream. Now don’t get me wrong, anyone who desires success should plan and dream. But not excessively to the point where action never takes place.

Why is this concept so important? I’ll put it to you like this. You can dream about having a job and plan on having a job, but if you never go out to get the job, all of your planning and dreaming is in vain. Think about it. How many people do you know or know of that want and hope for their lives to turn around? How many people literally believe that if they just keep doing the same thing that put them in their distressed situation that some other type of result will be attained? It seems weird, but oh so common.

We currently live in a world where the television affects our thinking patterns. It affects our understanding of a simple concept, work! More and more adults, not just children are being so beat up by the hardships of life that they come home and wait for a miracle. We live amongst a people who basically want something for nothing. Most would rather play the lottery and take their chances that to carve out their own sure destiny. I want to propose a different idea if I may.

If you were to close your eyes and imagine what you really want out of life, then open them and focus on what your eyes physically see, the brain cannot determine the difference of what was real. The brain sees what you want it to see. Most times, the eyes try to over-rule what the brain sees. That means, that although your brain could very well determine that the reality is that you are a millionaire, your eyes will tell the brain to shut-up! Isn’t the brain more powerful than the eye? So many people rely on the eye as if it was supreme. What if you were to follow your brain, and begin to take action based on what the brain sees? Where could you be in 3 years?

As life goes along, remember to begin to take action on the desires of your heart. Planning and dreaming is only good up to a certain point. The wealthiest people aren’t always the best planners or biggest dreamers. They are generally the ones who actively go after the dream they had, with no fear of failure. To achieve the goals you have set, become a do-er. Become the person that others look at and say, “mann, she/he just keeps going”. Once you begin to focus and work towards your dreams, others will start to take their place to help you. It’s truly amazing. Give it a shot- I dare you!

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In order to learn and to plan your schedule of training, it is important to understand the different phases of learning that you will go through. I borrowed this model from NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).

There are four primary stages of learning: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence.

Unconscious incompetence is the first stage. It is where you don’t know, and you aren’t aware of the fact that you don’t know.

Here are some examples. For a future guitarist, you don’t even recognize the guitar separate from the rest of the music when you listen to a song. For a future public speaker, you might think something along the lines of “He’s just up there talking to people… I talk to people all the time!”

Conscious incompetence is the second stage. This is where you become aware of the skill-set, and your lack of ability there.

To follow our earlier examples, now you have watched and listened as a guitarist performs a solo and thought “Wow, how does she do that?” Our future public speaker may have stepped in front of their first audience, frozen up, and realized maybe it’s not as simple as “just talking to people”.

Conscious competence is the third stage. It is where you have learned a process well enough to execute it properly as long as you are paying close attention.

At this point, our future guitarist has learned to play chords or a simple tune, but can only do it right as long as he or she concentrates on it. Our future public speaker might be able to give a short speech as long as he or she focuses on deep breathing and relaxation while presenting.

Unconscious competence is the fourth stage. This is where you have practiced the skill so much, that you execute it correctly without even thinking about it.

Our guitarist now knows the songs so well, he or she can play them well while jumping off a speaker, spinning in circles, or helping the lead singer with backup vocals. The guitarist also begins to develop the ability to play new material extemporaneously at this level. Our public speaker can now get in front of an audience and comfortably speak on virtually anything. He or she can answer tough questions (sometimes with “I don’t know”), and adjust the presentation to make it appropriate for the audience. Of course, a good presentation or speech will still require some preparation.

When we learn any skill or skill-set, we go through these same stages. This includes everything from learning to read and understanding Calculus, all the way to being a better mother and learning to deal with challenging emotions. The real challenge is that we are frequently stumbling through these steps without any conscious awareness.

Possibly the most critical point comes between stage 2 and stage 3. This is where you learn a step-by-step procedure to execute the skill. Once you get to stage 4, you won’t even think about it anymore. I highly recommend that you select a good instructor and/or a powerful procedure to learn.

This naturally leads us to ask ourselves “how many processes do you already have in place that don’t serve you?” If someone is better at math, it’s not because they are ’smarter’, they just have a better process. If the couple down the street seems much happier than you and your significant other, it’s not because ‘God blessed them more’ or because they are more attractive, it is because they have better processes in place. It might have been an accident, or they may have planned it that way, but they have simply learned better processes for their relationship.

There is good news in all of this. No matter what the skill is, you can always take the time to go back and change the process, or learn a new one entirely. You will have to put forth some effort to make these adjustments, but the rewards can be amazing. Take some time to find something you would like to change in your life. Find an appropriate process, and practice it until it becomes a habit. You will be happy that you did!

Benjamin Langley has been studying and training in meditation, yoga, and other sciences of the mind for over 10 years. He regularly writes and shares powerful insights on his own blog. Come take a look: http://peacefulprosperity.com/blog