How To Stop A Breakup - What You Should Write In A Note
How to stop your breakup before it is too late? In order to stop break up, it is important that you are aware of what you should and what you must not do.
Let’s look at the number one thing that you must not do.
Trying to contact your lover too many times. Perhaps you try to contact your lover several times per day.
You keep on calling your lover.
You keep on text messaging your lover.
Unfortunately, this is what you should never do, especially just after a break up. This is the time when you are most emotionally vulnerable. Therefore, you may be not in a clear mind to make the right decision. You also do not want to give your lover too much pressure that will drive him/her away instead.
Furthermore, it also make you appear desperate and needy which makes you less desirable.
Here is what you can do instead. You can send your lover a short note.
Let’s look at what you should write in the note:
1) First, tell your lover that you agree with the break up and that is probably the best thing for both of you now. It may be a bit counter intuitive but it works. Trying to argue abut the break up will only cause you lover to become defensive and make matter worse.
2) Next, tell your lover that you understand his/her frustration with you for the past few weeks or months. You will also want to tell him/her that you have something very interesting going on in your life right now and would really love to share these details with him/her.
3) Next, you want to tell him/her that both of you should not meet each other for the time being, if possible. (Unless both of you work in the same place) Perhaps a good time period is two weeks to a month, depending on your situation. Say that you will share with him/her your interesting details when you meet up next time.
Most likely, by using this note, your lover will have a more positive response. This is because you are telling him/her that you won’t be disturbing her for the time being. This will be good for both of you as the time alone may be what both of you need. As the saying goes, “Absence make the heart grows fonder”. Who knows your lover may start to miss you again during this time period.
Most relationships can be saved no matter how bad the situation is.
You can watch a video “1st Step To Stopping A Break Up”
at http://www.squidoo.com/magic_of_making_up_now
This video will show you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why.
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