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Online dating really can be fun and it’s a great way to meet the true love of your life, but certain characters can become an annoyance if you let them. We call these the “game players” and they abound on web dating sites. Hopefully this will help you learn how to ignore the game players and really enjoy your internet dating experience.

Game players are website members who are not after your money, but they are after something of value, your pride, your psyche, your sense of well being. They are usually male members, but that statistic is becoming less true all the time. These are people who, for some reason, stroke their own egos by damaging yours.

It’s okay to play games if the person on the other side is also playing games, and both sides are aware of it. But it’s quite another thing to deceive someone into trusting you just so you can deflate their pride or even break their heart. But for some reason the game player thinks that a “loss” for you is a “win” for him/her.

The variety of games being played is endless, far too varied to provide a list. In the case of male game players, probably the ultimate goal is a consensual sexual conquest. But it might be a final giving in to a request for sexy pictures, or something more innocent, like simply having a number of womens’ interest, all wanting him at the same time.

For the female game player the goal might be receipt of nice gifts, especially from several men at the same time, or maybe she finds self worth in being told she is loved and admired by as many men as possible. The point is, don’t let your self worth suffer at the hands of these people.

For the dating site it is almost impossible to control this behavior. It can’t terminate someone’s membership because another person complains of ill treatment unless that is backed up by solid evidence, and solid evidence is almost impossible to provide. Given undeniably clear evidence of improper behavior a good site will terminate a member’s status, but it almost always becomes one member’s word against another, and the website cannot be the one to judge on that basis.

However, most dating sites do offer one excellent tool to protect you from another member’s unwanted attention, your “blacklist”. On quality online dating sites you are entitled to place any other member you wish on your blacklist and once on your blacklist that other member is unable to contact you in any manner. Use your blacklist to get the game players out of your life.

Watch out for someone who:

1. Is too quick to express real love (why would someone seriously searching for a life partner jump into “love” overnight);

2. Seems preoccupied while chatting with you (maybe he/she is chatting with several members at once);

3. Doesn’t remember the things you’ve written in your profile or told him/her in a previous message (maybe he/she is juggling too many dates); or

4. Says something in a chat or a message that doesn’t seem to be directed at you, like asking you about Sidney, Australia, when you live in Vancouver, Canada (maybe you’re being confused with someone else on his/her list of conquests).

Most importantly of all, when you find yourself the victim of a game player, remember that it is his/her fragile sense of self worth that brought you there, not your own. He/she is truly the “loser”. Don’t give up on the rest of the members of your favorite site because most of them are truly, sincerely and honestly searching for you. Take care to avoid the game players, and online dating can be great fun and it can lead to a true and lasting relationship.

John Abbot, is co-owner of www.ChinaLoveMatch.net, a Quality Online Dating site. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady, and living in China, John knows and respects Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. For much more by John go to http://www.ChinaLoveMatch.net and click on CLM eMagazine.

Online dating is a great way to bond with those who can understand you, says Eric Sasson. In this article, we will see what online dating all about, find out how (and if) it works and get some helpful tips on making your online dating experience safe and successful.

Online dating is a good way to meet people and find out if you have similar interests before you waste your time and money on something that may go nowhere. It is the most recent form of dating and meeting new people. Most people turn to online dating sites to find their true love. A few years ago, there was exponential growth in numbers of those who turned to online dating. Do not Forget, Online is a place where you’ve got millions of potential dating partners to choose from.

Dating services have been around for decades, but it’s only been in the past six or seven years that they have really taken off online. Dating someone online can be very exciting and fun. Online dating saves dollars, particularly in the initial dates, where you are just getting to know a person, and it could be either a hit or a miss. Millions of people are doing it and in general, online dating is regarded as a safe medium for meeting potential dates.

It is relatively inexpensive: while there are many free chat rooms and online personal ad sites, you may want to invest in paying a small fee to meet people who are more serious about meeting a quality partner. Because of the anonymity of the medium, the popularity of blogs, online photo galleries, personal web sites and the comfort provided by them, most of us correspond entirely through e-mail. This can be combined to make online dating a perfectly acceptable means of meeting new people.

Online dating has helped many people find love and romance all over the world. So, yes, it definitely does work. Whether it is for friendship or for a long-term romantic relationship (even marriage) online dating sites can help you in these areas in just a few clicks.

To us, online dating is not just something out there on its own, but an excellent addition which can complement other traditional methods of meeting people. For this reason, online dating is a phenomenal solution that provides access to people all across the globe easily, efficiently, conveniently, and affordably.

So it is better to learn something about what online dating is like, find out how (and if) it works and get some helpful tips on making your online dating experience safe and successful.

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Online Dating really can be fun and it’s a great way to meet the true love of your life, but certain characters can really get into your wallet if you don’t know what to look for and how to avoid them. This is especially a problem on the so called “Free” sites.

We call these people “scammers” and they love to hang out on web dating sites. Learn how to avoid the scammers and really enjoy your internet dating experience.

Scammers are individuals who do not have intentions of inflicting any physical damage upon you; they just want your money. Unfortunately these people abound on web dating sites. Quality online dating sites are taking as many steps as possible to weed this type of member out. Unfortunately, it isn’t possible to catch them all in advance and the website requires some evidence that a member is scamming before it can refuse them or terminate their memberships.

Websites that charge for services are going to be far more diligent about guarding against scammers, and in fact the so called “free” sites have some reason to welcome scammers as they are the ones that really are best at appealing to many members and keeping the site busy.

If you find someone clearly trying to scam you, report their activities to the website. A quality site will investigate and terminate the Scammer’s membership if called for, and it will also notify all members when a scammer has been discovered to ensure that no one else is caught in their web. If you aren’t satisfied with the site’s response condsider moving on and joining another site.

Scammers are almost invariably (probably 95% of the time) registered on a dating site as a female member. That doesn’t mean they are female, frequently the person behind the female profile is a man, and just as frequently a couple, one man and one woman. The scammer will develop your interest in her, and then start to need your assistance, financial assistance specifically.

At first, usually the amount she needs seems so small to you that you can’t believe it is a scam. In your mind it just isn’t enough to bother with. Maybe she developed a computer problem, and if she can’t get it fixed how can she continue to communicate with you? Maybe her Mom is ill and needs some medicine. She hates to place her problems in your lap, but she feels so close to you already, and she has nowhere else to turn. Of course you’ll send her the $50 needed to solve this problem. You love that she would ask you to help.

The tricky part is that it could easily be true, maybe her computer really did break down, maybe her Mom really is sick. You can’t be sure and to turn her down may just cost you the most wonderful chance at happiness you’ve had in years.

It could all be true, and the scammer knows that, that’s why her/his story is so good. But it may not be true, and there may be 19 other guys falling for the same story at the same time. Suddenly that $50 is actually $1,000 and that’s a nice monthly income in China, and a small fortune in a place like Russia, Vietnam and most other third world countries.

And it could just be stage one of a plan to eventually invade your bank account or turn you into a monthly supporter. We have heard from good sources of female members on some Russian sites who have 4 or more “fiances”, each of whom is supporting her with a good monthly income.

Other scams involve simply getting you to provide your email address, which batched in with hundreds of others is a saleable commodity. Or to have you click on a link that will ultimately allow her/him full access to your computer, your identity, your personal information and ultimately, your bank account.

Watch out for a member who too quickly wants you to go directly to personal email contact. If in that first or second message you are already being asked to get off the website and email her address from your own, ask yourself why?

You can continue to message her from your web dating site for a long time at no additional cost. One of your greatest protections is just to stay on the dating site for communications until you are confident she is for real. So why give her your personal address before you are sure she is for real?

The scammer desperately wants off site as quickly as possible, to avoid being caught and to get more personal. Usually a scammer will tire after maintaining contact on the site for even a few messages, because she/he wants easier targets to deal with. She/he will drop you and move on to easier fish to catch.

Again, watch out for someone who is too quick to ask for money. For example, in the case of a website focusing on introducing Chinese women to International men, genuine and sincere Chinese ladies do not wish to lose face with you, and to ask a stranger for money is a loss of face. She will do almost anything to find other sources of money such as borrowing from friends or family, taking a second job, or even selling something she owns, before she will lose face with you if she is genuinely interested in you for the right reasons.

This is likely true of all genuine and sincere women of any culture who really are interested in you, not only Chinese women.

Just keep these things in mind and you’ll be safe from scamming. I repeat, if you do experience a scammer’s attention you should notify your website. A quality online dating site is constantly on guard and policing for scammers, and they’ll react quickly to a complaint from a member in order to protect all the website members.

John Abbot, is co-owner of www.ChinaLoveMatch.net, a Quality Online Dating site. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady, and living in China, John knows and respects Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. For much more by John go to http://www.ChinaLoveMatch.net and click on CLM eMagazine.

Meeting people on the internet should be enjoyable and fun. You should be able to meet lots of people, spend a little time getting to know each one, narrow them down to the few or the one you think you would like to at least be friends with, and then get to know him, her or them better. Finally you should arrive at a comfortable point where it is time to move to the next stage, personal contact.

But in this process keep in mind that there are hidden dangers of that other person possibly having bad intentions of doing you physical harm. We refer to these people as “Predators”. Keep them always in the back of oyur mind in order to enjoy your web dating experience instead of allowing it to become a disaster.

As we have said, web dating can be, and probably 99% of the time is, a lot of fun. The following information is not designed to scare you away from web dating or any other use of the internet. Rather it is intended to help ensure that you never have to fall into that 1% of people who do not end up having a good experience dating on the internet.

Predators are truly one in a million, and there is scant evidence that any of the serious predator crimes discussed under this heading have ever taken place in connection with a web dating site. But there is legitimate concern that it may happen someday. It is of course a major concern with similarly styled predators (pedophiles) preying on children on the internet. Don’t panic please, the chances of encountering a predator are very low, but it’s important that you are aware of any risks to be on the lookout for.

Predators have no conscience and are prepared, indeed planning, to do you grievous harm. They include men who have intentions of sexual assaults on unsuspecting women, and individuals, couples or groups who may wish to lure you, be you male or female, halfway around the world in order rob you, kidnap you, enslave you or worse. Of course they are a few individuals out of millions, and your chances of encountering one of them are extremely low, perhaps lower than being struck by lightning, but if you do you should know the signs to look for and the precautions to take.

Of course their plans are detailed and well thought out, so they will always have a good story to tell. Watch out for too good a story. They have an agenda, so watch out for someone who doesn’t want to adapt to your needs. They need to be in control and want to get you on their turf, so don’t let them set all the guidelines as to where your first meeting will take place, or when. If you aren’t easily controlled you make a difficult victim so it becomes easier to just pass on you and look for someone who does what they’re told.

When planning a meeting, don’t let them make the rules. You set the meeting place, and make it a public place where there are going to be lots of other people, like a restaurant or coffee shop. Likewise pick a time of day when people are out and about, lunch, afternoon coffee or an early dinner. Use your own transportation, don’t allow them to pick you up. Again, they should not be given your address until after you have met them and are comfortable with their intentions.

If you are traveling to met them in another country, the same rules appply. Book your own hotel, and then treat it as your home. Follow the same suggestions above for your first face to face.

We are not experts on this subject. If you wish to know more one place you might start is a book called “Web Stalkers – Protect Yourself from Internet Criminals and Psychopaths”, written by Donald Andert & Donald K. Burleson. This is not a comercial plug and this author has no relationship whatsoever with the book named above. You can also google for other sources of expertise on the subject of “predators on the internet”

Have a ton of fun meeting lots of great people on the internet, but play it safe. And if you experience anything that leads you to believe you are dealing with a Predator report it to your website immediately. A quality online dating site will investigate the possible predator and take steps to protect both yourself and all other members from him.

John Abbot, is co-owner of www.ChinaLoveMatch.net, a Quality Online Dating site. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady, and living in China, John knows and respects Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. For more by John go to http://www.ChinaLoveMatch.net and click on CLM eMagazine.

You don’t have to take a slow boat to China to find the Asian girl of your dreams. Today, you can introduce yourself to Chinese women by utilizing the worldwide web.

Many women in Asia generally, and China specifically, have an interest in meeting Western men. They are open to relocation to the United States, Canada, Britain, Europe, and the like. They see the internet as an effective tool to connect with men who desire a long-term relationship.

There are online dating services that specialize in uniting Chinese women and English speaking men. These services will provide you with a safe and efficient method of introducing yourself. Your search for a beautiful Chinese woman could begin with a click of the mouse.

There are more Chinese single women in China’s two largest cities today than ever before. These cities, Beijing and Shanghai, have many women who desire a fulfilling marriage. Of course, they’re not the only areas of the country where there are Chinese woman seeking men. This country of over 1.3 billion people has many Chinese girls searching for companionship. Many of them find there eyes looking westward.

Deciding to use an international dating service to find a Chinese woman pays dividends. A typical site will provide you with photos and facts about a particular woman. You can perform a specific search for someone who is of a particular age, height, and weight. You can specify smoker or non-smoker, drinker or non-drinker. You can even search based on their language practice and interests. By focusing your search, you increase the odds that you will find a compatible match.

Many beautiful Asian women would love the opportunity to explore life in the West. Dating websites that specialize in Asian female classifieds offer many hard working, decent, and caring Asian singles. Before you know it, you may establish a rapport with an Asian woman. This could lead to a deepening relationship based on mutual respect. In time, you may find yourself on a plane to meet face to face. Eventually you may find yourself walking down the aisle with your beautiful Chinese bride at your side.

Marriage in China is full of lovely tradition. The majority of Chinese women are of the Han nationality. They have specific marriage traditions, which many Western men have come to experience. Success with an online dating service featuring Chinese women seeking men is often the reason.

A typical, modern Chinese marriage day today involves the following:

* The bridal chamber is of elegant decoration and brightly lit for the bride as she prepares.

* In the country areas, the bride arrives for the ceremony carried in a sedan chair. In the city or other urban areas, the bridegroom meets the bride in a car.

* Firecrackers ignite and lively music plays when the bride arrives for the marriage ceremony. The music is often of a traditional nature. Confetti and bright ribbons rain down on the couple to bring them good luck.

* A prominent and prestigious person from the bride or bridegrooms place of work normally presides over the ceremony.

* After the formal ceremony, the couple stands next to each other and makes three bows. One bow is to Heaven, earth, and ancestors. The second bow is to both parents. The third bow is to each other.

* There is a banquet, frequently extravagant, to celebrate the union, as is common in many cultures.

A romance as the result of Chinese online dating may result in you one day enjoying these time-honored traditions. Of course, a single Chinese girl may be more than happy to do it up the Western world’s way.

The use of a Chinese dating service could bring you that much closer to true companionship. Chinese women who seek a relationship based on respect and shared values abound. Many of them use Chinese dating services to reach men who desire an Asian bride. They feel it’s their best hope to meet a man who can give them a new life in a new country. Many are willing to embrace Western culture and customs in exchange for a dignified relationship of true love.

The internet is an excellent resource for meeting a Chinese girl. Investigate legitimate and dignified sites that give you the opportunity to search for beautiful Chinese women. Who knows, one day she may become your Chinese bride.

John Abbot, is co-owner of a www.ChinaLoveMatch.net, a Quality Online Dating site. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady, and living in China, John knows and respects Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. For much more by John go to http://www.ChinaLoveMatch.net and click on CLM eMagazine.